Comfort with the uncomfortable
Imagine that in front of you there is a mirror. Look at
yourself. The mirror starts to reflect who you are right now. See deeply and it
will tell you, who you were in the past. You will remember what you have done.
See your eyes, and it will
show you who you want to be.
Type of personality
So now I ask you, who you are?
What personality do you have?
No one has the same
personality even twins. But some people tend to have some similar traits. Some
people can be so extrovert and the others can be so quiet. Some people like to be with others, some
people like to be alone.
There is a popular theory about personality named DISC. They
determine people to 4 characteristics.
D for Dominance, an active people. Dominating, directing, and
driving people.
I for Influence, an active person. Inspiring, impressing,
interactive, interested in people.
S for Steady, a passive person. Stable, shy,
security-oriented.
C for Compliance, a passive person. Careful, compliant,
calculating.
Dominance and Influence are more focus on project, plans,
and program. Steady and Compliance are more focus on relationship, emotion, and
caring.
Now, may I know what personality do you have?
Comfort zone
It is good to know yourself. But some people make their
personality as their excuse to keep on going in their comfort zone. For
example, people tend to say: “I am dominant, it is natural if I am bossy”, “I am an influence, it is normal
for me to talk a lot and people have to listen to me”, “I am a steady person, I
will never can stand in front of people”, “I am compliance, how if I am not good enough to do the
presentation? Oh I’m so worried”
Me, as a Steady and Compliance combination personality, I
prefer not to verbalize feelings, will give in rather than argue, resistant to
change, and lack of enthusiasm. What a perfect combination to be stagnant.
Maybe that is why it takes a long time for me to continue my basic manual.
I have a very comfort zone in my carrier now. My bosses are
really nice, the environment is very friendly, the benefit is also good, and
the job desk is no longer difficult. I feel very comfortable and bored at the same time.
Everything has changed when my friend told me that he has accepted work in overseas. He
makes me remember my dreams that I have written when I still in college such as travel the world,
have my own happy family, and have my own company.
The advantage if
we’re out of comfort zone
To be relaxed without an effort to develop myself more is a
comfort zone. It may look comfortable
and it is a beautiful place but we will never grow there. It’s a matter of
survival. Comfort zone is just a resting place not a destination. And to get out from the resting
place means you need to do the opposite. From restful to hardworking. From comfortable to uncomfortable.
From no difficulty to facing
some difficulties. I believe,
as the reward, we will get the opposite as well. The reward is bigger than the suffering
we may feel.
So now the challenges of Steady and Compliance like me are
to be more positive, not to worry
too much, be bold and strong,
be confident, fearless, and be more enthusiastic. Turn the fighting mode not to
compete with
others but be ourselves. Try to be comfortable in an uncomfortable situation after you feel comfortable, prepare yourself to the next
uncomfortable zone.
“Know who you are, and be it. Know what you want, and go out
and get it!”
